Lucas's Blog

I was recently having a conversation with one of my friends from back home.

And we both admitted something we’d been holding in for a few years.

Nothing crazy, just something honest.

Once we said it out loud, we kind of laughed.

Not because it was funny, but because it was obvious that we should’ve said it earlier.

Years had passed, and we never said a word.

And it made me think — how many moments have we let pass by because we didn’t say what we really felt?

This is what I call the Spilled Beans Theory.

If it’s on your mind, it’s meant to be said.

Because what’s the alternative?

Holding onto things forever?

Playing out fake scenarios in your head?

Sitting in the unknown?

Fear is real.

It sits there.

Quietly holding something invisible over you

That visceral feeling of not knowing what’s on the other side.

That thought of Rejection

So uncomfortable if you’re not used to it.

But wouldn’t you rather know?

Wouldn’t you rather take the risk and say the thing… than sit with the version of your life that might’ve happened?

This is a piece about that.

About saying what you actually want to say.

About letting your mind speak and dealing with whatever comes next.

The good, the bad, the awkward — all of it.

Silence will never move your life forward.

So — would you rather stay in the unknown forever?

Or find out what could be waiting for you on the other side?

We live in this weird, permanent state of time running out.

Life can change in a second.

It can be taken from us, flipped on its head, or thrown in a new direction with zero warning.

And yet, we still hold back from saying how we really feel.

To take a sad detour — the world woke up yesterday to news of a Liverpool player, Diogo Jota, passing away in a car crash.

Him and his brother. One moment with the world in front of them.

The next — all taken away.

He married his wife two weeks prior. Two kids.

His football career just coming into its prime.

The definition of a tragedy.

A reminder of how temporary all of this is.

All the moments we could’ve had…

If we just opened our mouths.

If we let our minds talk freely

But we choose to sit in that space we avoid.

That pocket of fear.

The space where we overthink, talk ourselves out of it, and convince ourselves not right now is safer.

But what if you tucked the fear away — just for a second — and said what you really meant?

Why do we keep things in?

Fear? 100%.

Rejection? No doubt.

But isn’t the whole point of this life to sit in those moments where you don’t know the outcome?

Where your hands shake a little, and your voice cracks?

That’s where the good stuff is.

That’s what life is.

Those fleeting moments.

It’s always better to know.

Even if it’s not the answer you hoped for.

Because not knowing — that eats away at you.

Slowly. Quietly.

Until you realise years have passed and you still don’t know what could’ve happened if you just spoke up.

Would you rather live with what could’ve been…

Or lean into the beauty of what could be?

The ones where you feel your heart thumping, your palms sweaty, your face scrunched up in nervous energy… and you say it anyway.

“Do you want to go out with me?”

“Will you travel with me?”

“I’ve got to tell you mate, You’re one of the greatest people I know”

“I’ve been struggling, and I don’t really know who to talk to”

“I know we haven’t spoken in a while, but I’d really like to catch up.”

“I don’t think this job is for me anymore.”

“Give me a hug”

“I love you.”

Say it. Put it out there.

Because if it stays in your head, it becomes a kind of truth — a version of your life that seems safe, but isn’t real.

We spend most of our lives operating from this place of security and comfort.

That’s not a bad thing — it’s normal.

It’s human.

We’re all human.

But when you zoom out, when you look at your life over a timeline… the moments that mattered the most were never the safe ones.

They were the brave ones.

The honest ones.

The ones where you said what needed to be said — even if your voice shook.

Your greatest highs?

Probably came from speaking up.

Your toughest lows? Probably started the same way.

But that is living.

That’s what this is all about.

Would you rather live on the rollercoaster?

The highs, the lows, everything in between?

Or the straight line?

Smooth. Predictable.

Never knowing your full potential.

A straight line might be smooth — but it’s boring.

It doesn’t move you.

Give me the rollercoaster.

This is both a reminder to myself and to everyone reading — sometimes things are best left said.

No matter how hard they are to get out.

The internal can never match the external if it’s never spoken.

Say these words like it all might get taken away from you tomorrow.

Hopefully it doesn’t.

I’m sure if you’re reading this, you’ll have a long and prosperous life.

But speak your thoughts as if they were your legacy.

People won’t remember the moments they never had with you because you were too afraid.

They’ll remember you speaking your mind.

Never play it safe and live life with everything you have.

Spill those beans all over the ground

Don’t clean them up

They’re better that way

LB