Lucas's Blog

It’s funny how some people stick with you

Not because of anything they said

In fact, you probably couldn’t quote them if you tried

But something about the way they made you feel

That part stays

Long after the talking has finished

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately

All the people who have come and gone in my own life

Conversations that felt so important at the time, but now I couldn’t tell you the exact words

What always stays with me is their energy

The comfort

The awkwardness

The spark

The enthusiasm

The way some people make you feel like you’re the only one in the room

It can be from those first moments with them

The initial chemistry

Their humour

or just the way they saw the world differently to you

Maybe it was their optimism for what’s to come

Or their struggle to believe that anything good was ahead

Whatever it was, they left something with you

And maybe they didn’t even realise it

That’s the strange and beautiful part

We don’t always know when we’re making a mark on someone

And most of the time, we don’t realise it’s happened to us until much later

You find yourself thinking of them at random, fleeting moments

A certain song plays

You walk down a certain street

You hear a phrase that sounds like something they used to say

And suddenly they’re there again

Not physically, but emotionally

Not because of what they told you

But because of what they showed you

About the world

About people

About yourself

Some people walk into your life and quietly hold up a mirror

They reveal parts of yourself you hadn’t noticed before

They awaken something

A hope, a fear,

Or a part of your identity that had been sitting quietly in the background

And even if they don’t stay, that part of you does

That feeling

That visceral sensation of their presence

And even if they don’t stay, that part of you does.

That’s what makes memories so powerful

They’re not just about them, they’re about you.

What you felt in that moment said something about where you were in life

What you needed

What you were learning

And sometimes, what you didn’t know you were capable of

People don’t just pass through our lives

They shape them

With no one else around

Life would be meaningless

They remind us how good it feels to be seen

They teach us what it looks like to be kind for no reason

They show us where our boundaries are

Or where we forgot to put them

Some people hold space for us

Others stretch it

Some lift us up, others teach us hard lessons we didn’t ask for

But all of them

In some way

Leave their mark

And the most powerful thing is, often, they weren’t trying to do anything at all

They’re existing in their reality as much as you are in yours

It’s often not grandiose gestures to be seen

Not a grand speech or life-altering advice

It’s their presence

Their tone

Their timing

The way they move through life different from you

The way they looked at you when you were nervous

The way they listened without rushing to respond

The way they treat people when no one is watching

These are the moments we carry

A collection of these fleeting moments that leave such an impact on us

Not because they were loud

Because they were real

The beautiful part is

Most of the time we don’t even realise we’re in those moments while they’re happening

It’s only when we look back that we see how quietly significant they were

When the dust has settled

Their impact on you reveals itself

Like others have left their imprint on us

We do the same

Every day, without even noticing

The way you smiled at a stranger

The time you gave someone your full attention

Asked questions about them

You listened

The moment you made someone feel welcome when they were on the outside looking in

That’s the

It will stick with that person

The impermanence of words are made timeless by feeling

We’re all moving through the world

Trying to figure it out as we go

We collectively have this quiet power to leave people better than we found them

Not by saying the perfect thing, or having it all together

But by being honest, authentic

being present, being kind

You might never know the role you played in someone’s story

How a simple gesture from you became a memory they carry years later

But maybe that’s the whole point

We’re not here to be remembered for our words

We’re here to make people feel something while they’re standing in front of us

So if there’s one thing I’ve learned

From all the people who have walked in and out of my life

It’s that feeling that lasts longer than anything else

How you made someone feel might be the most lasting thing you leave behind

LB