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The Ask.

The monster we’re scared to address

The guard at the gate of all our hopes and dreams

It doesn’t yell. It doesn’t chase.

It just stands there — quietly

Waiting.

Waiting for you to find the courage to open your mouth

Behind it?

Only everything you want

The life. The partner. The body. The lifestyle. The freedom.

No, this isn’t about to spiral into a motivational sales funnel

No 8-week course

No morning routine download

I promise

Except this idea:

What if asking for what you want is the only thing standing between the life you have… and the one you actually crave?

You already know what your ask is

It lives somewhere in your chest

You feel it when you’re about to sleep

You hear it in the silence after scrolling

You see it in others and think, Why not me?

To ask that person out

To admit you’re not happy

To tell your boss you’re done

To tell your parents who you are and what you want

To quit, start, leave, begin — whatever it is

Everyone has their own version of it

Some will let it rot inside them for years

Some will act before the fear finishes its sentence

Whenever you choose to face it

That’s the moment life opens the gate

That’s the day you stop waiting for permission

That’s the day you take the pen and start writing your own story

I want to dive into a few little sub-sections of the ask I think are important

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

As humans, we are so quick to talk ourselves out of the things we actually want

Before we even try, we’ve already written the ending:

“Nah, they’ll probably say no.”

“I’m not ready yet.”

“I don’t want to seem too full on.”

Sound familiar?

We create these stories in our heads — not because they’re true, but because they keep us safe

Safe from rejection. Safe from failure.

Safe from having to admit we actually care about something.

Because when you care, it’s risky

There’s something at stake

If you go after it and it doesn’t work out, well… that stings.

So instead, we play it cool

We wait.

We say, “Maybe later.”

Those stories?

They’re often just well-rehearsed excuses.

Little protective lies we’ve told ourselves so many times, we’ve started to believe them

And they cost us

They cost us chances. Connections. Growth.

Experiences that could’ve changed everything — if only we’d asked

Here’s the good news: those stories?

You’re the one writing them!

So instead of saying, “I’m not ready,” could say, “I’ll figure it out as it comes

Instead of “They’ll say no,” try, “What if they say yes?”

Instead of “I’m not the type of person who does that,” ask, “Why not?”

You don’t need to have it all figured out

You need to start asking better questions

And accept that you will learn things along the way

No one has ever started at the top

The obstacle is the way

The second you stop talking yourself out of things, you start walking into things that matter

Micro-asks build the muscle

I’ve learned this more than anything while travelling

I ask people stuff very regularly

I’ve made it part of my daily programme

Ask whenever you’re not sure

There’ll always be someone who can help you

Otherwise, you’ll make some sort of connection

It doesn’t have to be grand

It can be the simple, everyday stuff you’d occasionally offload to Google

“Hey, where’d you get that jumper?” Or: “Do you know a good local spot to eat around here?” Or even just: “Do you know how to get to the metro from here?”

Simple things. But asking? It always opens something up.

Sometimes it leads to a great chat

Sometimes it leads to a recommendation I never would’ve found on my own

And sometimes, surprisingly often,

It leads to a connection

People want to share

They just need a reason to

A smile, a friendly attitude and a question at it’s core is the foundation of many great first interactions.

It’s like going to the gym for your voice

Every time you ask, you’re building trust in yourself

You’re proving that the world doesn’t collapse when you put yourself out there

In fact, it usually responds pretty well

These micro-asks, as small as they seem, have changed the way I move through the world

I don’t wait around wondering anymore

If I’m curious, I ask

If I want something, I ask

If I need help, I ask

It’s been a massive unlock for me

In earlier years, I’d stand, confused and paralysed by fear.

Now these small asks, they’ve made life richer, more connected, more surprising, more informed

If asking for something big feels too far off, start with the little things

Ask where someone got their shoes

Ask what their favourite dish is at a restaurant

Ask how they learned that skill you admire

You don’t need to have a grand reason — curiosity is reason enough

You’d be surprised how far it takes you

People love honesty

Here’s something we forget

People like honesty

Actually no

They love it

In a world that’s crying out for authenticity

We see fitness models and influencers living fake lives before our very eyes on social media

Sometimes we just want what’s real

We spend so much time overthinking how we’ll come across that we forget most people are just like us

They appreciate realness

You don’t have to rehearse some perfect line or act like you’ve got it all figured out

Sometimes the most refreshing thing you can do is just be straight up

“Hey, I’ve always wanted to do what you do — how did you get started?”

“Sorry if this is random, but I love your style — where’s that jumper from?”

“I don’t really know what I’m doing here, but I’m figuring it out — any advice?”

No ego. No performance. Just honesty.

And the truth is, people respect it.

Because it takes guts to be real

It’s so rare now that when someone is honest — not salesy, not overly polished

It stands out

I’ve had strangers light up when I’ve asked for help or directions.

Locals give me their favourite restaurant recs with a smile because I showed genuine interest

Even online, when I’ve asked people how they built something or how they got to where they are, more often than not

They’ve shared openly

People like feeling seen

They like feeling useful

And when you’re honest with your ask

When you come from a place of curiosity or respect

They usually want to meet you halfway

When I used to train Jiu Jitsu back in Melbourne

I would always attend a class on Fridays called No Gi Advanced

Now let me state

I’m about as far away from advanced as you can be

I had no right to be in there

These guys and girls were all purple, brown, and black belts

But despite this, I came along because I wanted to learn from the best

I would get smashed, choked, the works

Every time I’d get beaten, I’d always ask

How did you do that? How did you get to that position?

Always with respect and genuine curiosity

All those people loved sharing

They’d all once been in my shoes and wanted to help

I learned from those classes than probably any other

Simply because I wanted to learn

We think asking is a burden

But in the right context, it’s actually a gift

It gives someone the chance to help, connect, and relate

And that’s a win for both sides

So if you’re ever overthinking your way out of asking something simple, remind yourself: You’re not being annoying — you’re just being honest

And honesty, more often than not, opens the door



Final thoughts

At the end of the day, it’s simple

The world often doesn’t go to the most talented, the most experienced, or the most deserving

It goes to the ones who ask

The person who got that promotion?

They might’ve asked sooner

The person who’s now dating the person you liked?

They probably asked first.

That person living the life you want — travelling, creating, building something for themselves? They didn’t sit around hoping it would land in their lap

They asked. They applied

They reached out. They made it known

The difference between them and you isn’t ability

It’s willingness

Willingness to speak up

To make the first move

To raise their hand when something lights them up.

Because the truth is, your version of reality already exists.

That job. That relationship. That lifestyle.

That feeling of “I’m proud of this life I’m building.”

It’s out there

But it’s waiting for you to show up and ask for it

So don’t be afraid of the ask

Don’t let the fear of awkwardness or rejection rob you of a life that feels like yours

Start small if you need to

Practice daily. Build the muscle.

Because when you learn to ask — clearly, honestly, and without apology — the world responds

It might give you more than you even imagined

So, Ask away

LB